For those who aren’t privy to the concept, among a masculine (those with a penis) group of people you are either a grower or a shower. This means at its base you fall as a man (with a penis) under one of two very basic categories….
A Shower:
The individual’s private is always at attention. And by default ready to go at a moments notice. This private is cocky (all pun intended) because this private is at full mast ready to sail into the vast ocean.
A Grower:
The individual’s private can shape shift and adapt. When necessary it can vary in size to accommodate the individual’s needs of action. This private is sometimes excited to show but can also be out of the way when other tasks need completing. When it’s time to perform, this sleeping giant can emerge from its cave like a fighter dawning a hoodie before the fight, knowing the time to shine will come, but to reserve for the main event.
In a masculine culture the seemingly desirable is the shower because the mate can get a preview to the show. Issue is that if you show your hand too soon you could lose the game right away, blowing your “chips” because you are called on your bluff. Or like an angry child threatening to hold its breath to gain what it wants, only to quickly realize they don’t have the stamina to hold this hoax for much longer.
Whereas for the grower they are the underdog with the special talent that makes and breaks the game. Those who witness this feat see that the force is strong in this one and it is not the size of the handle of a lightsaber that is impressive until it has been triggered. Blustering with dazzling rigidity and intense… well you get the picture.
But I’m not talking about the male appendage here; I’m talking about perspective.
If you aren’t growing then what are you doing…? Well, dying.
David Goggins in his audiobook Can’t Hurt Me explains, “They say there is light at the end of the tunnel but not once your eyes adjust to the darkness.” He is making the excellent point that even in darkness you can still find comfort.
Goggins also goes into the the concept that “those that know don’t speak.” If you are simply showing then are not growing. But if you choose to make growing the goal, and show when you can, gives you the best of the process, journey, and success.
Mr. Sods 