Beating yourself up.
Over-criticizing yourself.
Being too hard on yourself.
Give yourself a break.
Being mean to yourself.
Being your own drill sergeant.
I heard all of this growing up. Once something happened that I felt I caused, I would place myself in mental court. This court is more like a dojo with Master Me beating the living shit out of me for compromised decisions. This Master Me has always been a better fighter and is always stronger. Master Me always has an answer, good or bad, but never wants to talk about the good. Master Me is only interested in criticisms.
Growing up like this can be tough, but it can also be a benefit instead of a weakness. These days social media adds a spotlight to this self-criticism. I learned it’s one of my favorite qualities I have.
If you are struggling with this kind of thinking this is how I personally use it as a strength.
Become a better fighter.
Train yourself to become stronger than your internal criticisms. The trick is that you know your mind’s weaknesses too. Identifying your weaknesses and making them into strengths gives you strength. Own your shortcomings and you will grow taller.
There is an added benefit of becoming the King Fu Master of your mind and in that process the words and criticism of others no longer matters.
How is this done though?
I can only speak from my own perspective on this which is self-work.
This means something different person to person.
For me it was becoming the person I want to become. Check out my other post: Who Are You?
I explain the process I take to discovering my best self and how the rest of my life will be in the pursuit of that person, knowing I’m already him.
But in training.
Secret is you are always in training for your whole life. So become a better student.
Mr. Sods 